Reality vs. Perspectives
Reality is exactly what is happening everywhere around us. Not what we think about or what we fantasize about. But what we do experience. For instance, you are reading this text now – and that’s reality (your part of reality) at his moment. People call it different names. They use various symbols to label it. Life, „What is“, presence, „here and now“ and many others. It might be possible you don’t like what you are reading, or you think it’s not explained clearly. But that’s not reality. Reality is not what your mind thinks is happening – or how your body reacts to what is happening. It’s what IS happening for real. It’s a simple, plain fact. And it has nothing to do with our emotions, thoughts or feelings – these are just a reaction to what is happening. They are just our “tools” of perceiving reality. Reality is JUST what IS. It means that each of us perceives that only reality through our perspective. Perspective created directly on our emotions, feelings and thoughts. Right now, when you are reading this text.
At least until we still have mental images about what, how and why is happening; and consequently we are identified with experienced emotions, feelings and thoughts.
Our own perspective on reality is shaped by the level of inner, psychological maturity of an individual – and that not always (rather very rarely) corresponds to our physical maturity. I personally consider the inner maturity as an ability to perceive, see and accept the reality. Regardless of emotions, thoughts and feelings – these are just a reaction to reality, not the reality itself. I see the maturity as a gradual dissolving of all our perspectives.
We could call such inner maturity ”an awareness“ or a stage of consciousness we, most of the time, experience. The process of inner maturation is a natural process we are not able to speed up and which has its own pace. However, what we could influence from a certain grade of maturity, are our answers to reality. And the answer to what is happening may be a reaction – or a response. We can react to our own life experience, or we can respond to it. That’s really the only choice we have, with a direct consequence of our growth. And as we are able to adapt to the external environment (apart from some objective reasons we are not able to influence – or to influence only a very little) in the age of physical maturity, we are able to influence our perspective on reality. At least we could form it in various ways. It changes in time, age, naturally by gathering more and more experiences.
A three-year-old child has a different perspective on reality comparing to that of an adolescent – just as a physically grown up adult has (or at least might have) a different perception of reality. He might have it, however, the majority of us resist growing. Unconsciously, we are not aware of it. We actually fight against life that comes to us through reality – and ultimately we fight against our maturity. Therefore we often stay trapped in a perspective that is not bad or minor but does not belong to our physical age, our physical maturity. Let’s say we live in a distorted, outdated perception of reality. We unconsciously often stay trapped at the perception of a child or adolescent. And it’s nothing exceptional – on the contrary. In fact, the majority of physically grown-ups, society itself, stays in the perspective of infantile (not meant pejoratively) view of reality (based on the Wilfried Nelles’s model of the evolution of consciousness).
When we are adults and we have some impact on how our environment we live in looks like (place where we live, work we do, people we meet, etc., what we, as children, don’t have an impact on, or we have no choice), one of the ways our perspective on reality is formed is our approach of „consuming“ the information.
Whether we want it or not, if we are a part of a modern society, our lives take place mostly in materialistic, rational world. Simultaneously our perception does. Therefore we have a natural tendency to consider the reality as something „external“, absolute, tangible, univocally provable. We require proofs and evidence for everything and in the last decades, the science became a central point of social interest. We completely rely on since and intellectual logic. The basis for the science, however, is a theory, assumption, precondition, (temporary) hypothesis. It’s valid only until it’s not disproved by another theory. And the only arbiter is an experiment, a scientific study. But the experiment, the scientific study can only bring an insight, a discovery. Not the truth. Because the experiment, the scientific study or any type of searching generally is a negation – of which the main goal is to disprove or confirm the hypothesis. But what was proven by an experiment or a scientific study 30 or even 5 years ago, doesn’t need to be valid anymore. And as we could see on a field of science almost daily – very often it’s not true. So the original hypothesis is disproved by a new one. Because life is not static, it’s moving. The same is the reality.
The bottom line is that we, humans, very often stick to old, long-time, not valid claims. And it’s completely not relevant, whether the reason is unknowing or obduracy and aversion to anything new. And that is precisely why we are not aware, that our own perception of the world, of what is happening around us, is just our own perspective, our own view of reality – and not reality itself, not an objective truth.
Such as sun shines on us on a hot summer afternoon. When you look at the sky, the sun is really there, whether we believe it or not. But as we are humans, our perspective is formed by what we perceive and how we perceive it. Someone could see the sun as hellishly hot and depressing – while someone else could see it as a good opportunity to sunbathe. Someone could see it as a huge machine causing cancer, another one would consider sun an angry God one need to fear and serve him (from the evolution point of view, it has not been a long time ago when we were able to sacrifice other people to propitiate the God of Sun).
All those people will have very different perspectives, through which they will perceive it (or any other object of a phenomenon). All those people will consider different perspective (their one) as objective truth, reality. Even despite the fact, that objectively the sun is the same for all of us.
Objective truth – reality is only the fact there is the Sun, it shines and emits its rays to the Earth – in various forms of energy. Which each of us can perceive differently – somebody as hot, somebody as not so hot (as he might feel cold), somebody as a positive live up of life, somebody as a source of cancer, angry god, etc. Nothing could be changed in a fact that Sun shines and emits some energy to the Earth.
However, in fact, it means that if we usually do something or think about something, it creates *our own perspective, our view of reality. Hand in hand comes the understanding that our idea of how other people should understand us, should know what we think and what we want from them, is just our illusion. It’s simply a confusion. It comes from our misunderstanding of facts, from our own perspective. From our assumptions, that everyone sees everything just as we do. Because we do not realize we live in our small, limited, personal world – where nobody could access, but us. Nobody but us suspects what is going on in there. And from there come our feelings and ideas of not being understood by the world, not being understood by people around us, our parents, etc.
In a context of such understanding, the questions „Why don’t they understand me?“ or considerations such as „He should know what I want!“, „He should know what I am thinking about, what I dream about, what I want to imply on him/her“ sound ridiculous. But to overlook this illusion, we would need to get out of our small personal world, open up towards everything that comes to us and surrender to life with everything it offers. We would need to be very open and thence also vulnerable. And that’s not easy at all.
* Some philosophies, cognitive psychology, esoteric circles and lately also part of scientific community claims that each of us creates his own reality. Many of them even mention that “our own reality” can be changed randomly. That we are creators of our own lives, of our destiny. In most cases by “gaining control” over the mind. And if we get rid of old beliefs, we could literally become anyone we decide to be – we could randomly create our own life (many call it „re-programming“ of sub-conscious). In my opinion, it is clearly an illusion of the mind and I tried to explain here why it is only a mental illusion. What people don’t see is that by no means are they creating a „new“ reality using that approach. They create just a new perspective. A different view of objective truth, on reality. And as such, they create just another fictional, virtual identity of themselves. Which, at some point, inevitably leads into isolation.