Resolving issues instead of avoiding them
“The human mind would have you believe that your life’s purpose lies in the future rather than here and now, so you keep postponing your life until you meet all your fears face to face at the end. You must look deeply into your fears now in order to find your purpose, because your purpose actually lies within your fears” 
I’ve been reading the small piece of text above in one of my favourite books last days when a certain event from the past swept into my awareness.
It was about a year ago when I was witnessing a dying of my grandmother. It all happened very quickly and she left after a few weeks of suffering from a sudden poor health condition, physical weakness and a basic inability to cope with daily life. I saw her a few times within these weeks but what I remember clearly was the last visit, just a day or two before she died in the hospital.
When we came to see her, she was already in a kind of trance. At first sight rather imperception. Subtly but intensely shaking, refusing to eat, most of the time not recognizing people. But what I felt was a huge fear she was completely possessed by. Taken by deep emotional turbulence which her mind was incapable to handle. It is said that when we are approaching death, the individual protection boundaries which people call the Ego is dissolving and thus we come into a face with the pain and suffering of all beings we are connected to. Which, in the end, is our own suffering. I have experienced something similar when going through some deep process in the past, while not having a sufficient distance from emotional states yet.
Her body was such a heavy piece of form. She must’ve been in huge pain, suffering deeply at the end. What I realized there was that she had to go through all her unintegrated fears at once before leaving. Including her biggest fears – the fear of people and the fear of aloneness, or death. She said only one sentence I recognized and remembered: „If you would know, how it is…”
Just recently I had a conversation with a friend of mine. We talked about the current situation in the world, about how it affects us and we slightly touched the topic of its possible meaning. By listening to him and myself, I again realized that as I grow older, I’m looking quite differently at the circumstances which are unfolding in our individual as well as collective life. That instead of trying to find the way out, the way of gaining control over it or trying to “fix it”, I am almost naturally considering a different point of view. For example by asking unusual questions like “What does it show to me and us?”, “What is the hidden message behind this event or phenomenon?” or “What could we learn from this situation?” Without searching for an answer.
Because I see that in our current stage of modern collective, adolescent awareness, that is on a cusp of a major change, when dealing with life challenges or when trying to resolve our issues we are just fiddling with consequences. Endlessly trying to fix the effects of the root causes, which lies much deeper than we could possibly conceive. And thus running like the rabbits in the vicious circle of never-ending repeated cycles. To imagine this, I wrote an article about the mechanics of all life’s manifestation pointing to the insight that at its core, all life is a resonance. Including all our problems, issues, challenges, fears or viruses.
That any manifestation of life form is moving from a core resonance (a root vibration) through feeling into an idea (a thought) and finally to physical action. Including all our problems, issues, challenges, fears or viruses…
Which uncovers that to resolve these problems, issues, challenges, to integrate our fears or to heal the diseases caused by viruses and bacteria we will need to look much deeper than to the physical layer. To actually resolve something, we would have to go right to the core of problems and issues – and approach their resonances. Hidden and oppressed deep in the human unconscious. This is what the integration is about. Integration is about merging, about containing these resonances. And to contain them we have to acknowledge them. To allow them being seen and felt unconditionally. No matter what they are. Whether it’s pain, fear, anger, grief, joy, oppression or force.
The integrative approach applies to anything. To any life form or manifestation. To all our ideas, intentions, business challenges, job opportunities, problems, issues, diseases or relationship crises. Deep down, at the core of life, everything ends up and unfolds as a specific resonance. One for all, human suffering. It will be here until we decide to acknowledge and contain it. It’ll be here unless one day we choose to resolve the root cause of our suffering. And that means to uncover what lies hidden and oppressed deep in the unconscious and face our deepest fears and their consequent destructive patterns directly.
We cannot be avoiding the truth indefinitely. So we better take over the responsibility and start dealing with what is hidden now. Until it’s too late and we experience all our fears at once lying in our death bed.
Facing our fears and resolving these resonances doesn’t require any doings. But rather being with them unconditionally. Because feeling resonances has consequences. Feeling resonances is causal. And causality brings organic resolutions. The consequences of feeling them are that life will bring about the experiences that will enable us to integrate them. Because those consequences – or experiences are what is required to resolve them. Once and forever. One by one.
That time, next to my grandmother’s death bed, I felt death creeping up into her life. And later, at the funeral standing alone next to her opened casket and looking at her dead body, it was even stranger. A weird but interesting resonance. Like a rough, earthy, very heavy buzzing.
Life thought me countless times that in order to resolve something, it doesn’t make sense to work with the consequences. In other words with the outer manifestation of resonances. It’s only an attempt to fiddling with effects. Unconsciously trying to “get rid of” what is unfolding for integration. That applies to work with beliefs, habits, other people, human relationships, confidence issues or even emotions. With our physical circumstances and discomfort stemming from them. We have to work with what is behind. To work with causality. With resonances – to follow them up to their source. Then feel them without condition.
And this approach ultimately leads inside…