The sham of the childhood conditioning
Sometimes I just like to be very direct and simple. Thus let’s take it the other way around this time and I’m going to share the whole point at the very beginning. It’s a claim for which the majority of the laic and especially the professional community would most likely crucify me, but I cannot help myself since it is my personal experience.
There is no such phenomenon as a “childhood conditioning” (or imprinting, whichever you like). And before you curse me from preaching heresy, please read on.
A couple of years ago I went through some physical experiences that allowed me to receive some insights about the nature of the 7-stages lifecycle pattern I wrote about here. Now I would like to continue and gradually move a little bit deeper into the topic.
The current most wide-spread and widely accepted concept claims that human beings incarnate, which simply means that they go through physical and emotional and mental development, in 7-year periods. That we are conditioned through the interaction with our parents, closest family or whoever we grow up with. Interaction is understood here in terms of copying the basic behavioural patterns of our parents and immediate family, their habits, fear patterns and so on. By observing, seeing, feeling and sensing of whatever is happening within our environment. That the main patterns of conditioning are wired into the physical body and DNA itself during the first 7-year period, which is akin to be the most important one. In childhood. Then the emotional patterns in the next 7-years and mental patterns in the 3rd 7-years period. After these 21 years, we should be fully incarnated and ready to live the adult life. The age of 21 is even set as a “legal age” limit border in some countries to entitle the human beings for certain social rights, like drinking alcohol, driving the car or the right to vote.
While the existence of the 7-year periods’ pattern is more than obvious, there is something that I see as a huge question mark and a hidden snag within this concept. And the snag lies within the actual experience. Which uncovers something different…
No need to go further than your own life experience and your past. And it won’t take you more than half an hour, a few hours or days if you want to be too punctilious. All you need is a paper, a pen and some time for a small exercise to remember what experiences happened within your past. You can find the instructions in the article mentioned above. I guarantee you’ll be surprised. What you will find is that every important event of your life is regularly repeating every 7th year. Which means that if you break up with your girlfriend in the 3rd year of a 7-year cycle, for example, the very same event happened 7 years from that moment – at the 3rd year of the next 7-year cycle (and also a previous one). Or if you had an emotionally difficult period in the 2nd year of the cycle, the same happened in the 2nd year of the next cycle (and in the 2nd year of the previous cycle). Simply, the very same experiences keep repeating and perpetuating over the 7-stages cycles. However, don’t fix your attention too tightly to a specific type of event. In one cycle it could be a break up with your girlfriend, in the next one a break up with your long-time employer. The form is not so important. Important is the specific type of vibration – in this case an emotional break up with a feminine aspect of yours (an archetype, due to a small “replacement” originally represented by your physical mother. More precisely, by her nipple which gives a child the sense of certainty. An anchor in the world). For example, I found that in every 3rd year of my 7-stages lifecycles I broke up with a girlfriend (or something or someone representing the feminine archetype inside) and in every 5th year I experienced an event or phenomenon which brought me to a completely different, wider perspective – once it was a woman which opened my eyes and “shaken” my tight point of view, another time a deep spiritual experience which did the same.
What you will eventually find is your regularly repeating 7-stages lifecycle pattern. Your base vibrational signature imprint. And if you look closer into the vicious circle and at the regular repeating of the very same circumstances and phenomena in each cycle, at some point you will see that all life is an unfolding of “something” in 7-stages cycles. And that from the very first day we were born. Even the first 7-year period is already an unfolding. Of something, that is inwardly already a part of us when we are born and that we only attract in the form of experiences into our outer, physical lives after birth. That something is known as conditioning, or the so-called “sacred wound”. By the way, if you look into the Nelles’ model of the evolution of consciousness or the ancient model of the seven subtle bodies you’ll find the same. With the lowest, fear-based frequencies we come into contact at the very beginning – in the mother’s womb.
Life is at its causal point a resonance, a vibration. And so is our conditioning.
Please don’t get me wrong. What I’m saying here is not that the conditioning doesn’t exist or that we won’t be conditioned. We are all imprinted with the ancestral conditioning, without any question. It seems to be a part of entering our collective experience. The whole world has conditioned us away from our true nature. And we have to take responsibility for it. But the imprint didn’t happen in childhood. It didn’t happen through our interaction with the environment during childhood or adolescence. It wasn’t our direct physical interaction with parents and the experiences from the childhood which made the imprint happen.
Claiming this is the same as leaving the sandwiches out on the beach during the nice sunny day when there are a lot of seagulls around. And then blaming them for stealing the sandwiches. It’s a delusion and ignorance.
Vice versa. The imprint only unfolded in childhood. Our attraction field pulled these experiences in. We received the difficult experiences because we attracted them. Not because life was behaving terribly to us or because we wished for those unpleasant circumstances to happen.
It was the imprint already present which made the childhood happen. And the adolescence to happen. And adulthood to happen…
It was (and still is) the womb imprint – as a balance to the light of our essence, which makes our lives manifest. I know it’s going to sound cruel, but it wasn’t our experience of being raped which made the imprint happen. It was our womb imprint, which made the experience of being raped happen. Whether that happened physically or emotionally or mentally. If the resonance of being abused or raped is a part of our ancient imprinting, we are at some point going to be abused or raped – physically, emotionally or mentally. Of course, we are not victims of this imprint and it will be repeating only until we decide to take responsibility for our “heritage”. In a while, I’m going to explain why realising this is (r)evolutionary.
The main point is that the ancient imprint is energetical, vibrational. It’s a resonance wired deeply into the physical body, rather than the emotional wound – that is already just a consequence. But when you look at the path of awareness, the closest most of us can get with our senses is the emotional and therefore we believe it’s an emotional imprint connected to our childhood (that’s also why most of us are completely identified with our child-self, with the emotional body – which then drives our lives). However, physiologically and anatomically the unborn child is “ready” in the 6th month of a gestation period.
The physical imprinting takes place inside of the vibrational environment of the mother’s womb. The three 7-year “incarnation cycles” within the 21 years are nothing but an unfolding of the imprint, which took place before we were born. Thus the whole childhood and adolescent conditioning concept seems to be nothing but a lack of clarity. A false concept. To calm down the human mind. And to cover the truth that we didn’t come here for what modern society believes in – for leisure and enjoyment only. It’s a very sophisticated victimisation game. For those who still want to play this game. And for their victims on the other side.
This insight has got immense consequences. Amongst all, it puts into deep doubts the whole “therapy business”. At least the family & childhood therapy business – or any therapy that works with emotional, mental or even physical “patterns” by approaching them the same way (emotionally, mentally or physically). It brings into light that from the causal point it’s a play with human trust and vulnerability. Without much effect. Just to keep customers returning and make money.
Because anything that deals or try to deal with the problem by fiddling with its effects – instead of approaching the causal point and adjusting its real source, which is of a vibrational quality, is simply ineffectual, systemless and without a hope to resolve the root cause. By its very denial of the root cause. It can only suppress the true reason even deeper into the unconscious. From where it will have to be dug out and processed one day.
This is, at least to me, not an ordinary discovery. Because it means the utter and immediate end of the victimhood. Of all the blaming and justification of our childhood or family conditioning in general. Beginning with our parents. No matter what they have done to us. Or what anybody else has done to us. Which is difficult. Because we all went through a lot of intense experiences with different people in our lives – especially our immediate family. It also means a very vague relevance of all the “therapy approaches” being founded upon or dealing with such concepts. Or for example the new-age movement initiative around the schooling system currently in place. Even though I definitely do not advocate the existent one, this insight simply puts into deep doubts all the new-age movement’s focus and importance of the “appropriate & correct” educational system or the upbringing in general. As if it would have any real significance on the path of the human being.
And so, if you have done the “exercise” with your 7-stages lifecycle pattern and found the same as I did, we all have two choices. Either to continue playing the victims of our past – of our childhood and family we were born to, our past experiences, failures, difficulties and wounds. Or to respond accordingly to what we have just realized.
The conditioning we received is an inevitable consequence of what we are even before the point of conception. A balanced “test” we have to undergo to uncover our true light. We are born exactly into a family, to the mother and into the womb (or into “an exact energetical environment”) that enables us to receive such conditioning, that will later in our life – though integrating it, serve to unlock our very specific gifts hidden inside the DNA. And thus release the true light from within. The genius we are all along.
Due to a single, very simple fact. That we are this imprint – partly. The ancestral imprint is our so-called shadow. The hidden feminine aspect containing our true energetical potential. The driving force of our personal evolution. Evolution is simply an integration of the womb imprint. As when the evolution finishes, the story is also over. And the whole “shadow” becomes a pure light.
In fact, it’s not an imprint at all. Not in terms of how we understand it nowadays. That it’s something that had been “placed” on a new-born child by its environment. Regardless of any timeframe. What I experienced and what becomes obvious from the 7-stages lifecycle pattern is that imprinting is a consequence of energy with a certain vibrational frequency entering the form, the matter. It’s an inevitable “response” of that matter to keep the equilibrium and stabilize itself. Unfolding in time and space. Completely independent of some family environment or unpleasant childhood and adolescent experiences and so on. And the higher the frequency of energy entering the form, the more destruction it causes. Thus more “conditioning” to integrate. And so, the whole conditioning issue might easily be a direct consequence of the very moment our father’s sperm penetrates the mother’s egg, of the point of conception.
Our conditioning is simply the sum amount of destruction we have caused to others when entering their field. As long as we take responsibility for the consequences such an encounter created, we are free of that particular relationship. While the consequences from the other side of the relationship are not our responsibility.
Thus what we feel towards others, towards life or in the presence of others is precisely what we project into them and are getting back as a mirror. It’s our responsibility to take care of. Once the mirror we’re receiving is full of love, we have merged with the whole and transmuted our shadow into light.
Nobody has ever done anything to us. All the world is perfect exactly as it is. There is nothing here but peace, love and silence. Everywhere, in everyone, in everything. It was us all the time hurting ourselves, distracting ourselves, enslaving ourselves.
Because there is nothing but us. Ever since the beginning of time.
In this light, our first 7-stages cycle seems to be occurring during the gestation period, in our mother’s womb. That is a point to consider – as something must have triggered even the first cycle, right? The same as the Big Bang triggered the expansion of the Universe. Perhaps it could be one sperm meeting an egg? That remains a mystery. Though also a simple truth woven into many traditions and books of wisdom throughout all of human history. Above all into “the book of books”. Which is the most detailed and comprehensive library of consciousness ever written.
But tightly enclosed in our rigid, religious & scientific materialism’ beliefs we are considering and looking at the whole world from a mistaken “direction”. Which makes us deaf and blind to most of the life’s mysteries, that paradoxically lie at such immediate closeness. However, nobody can deny what really happened. Nobody can deny history – whether personal or collective. For I bet that if you take more of your time and look back – through the eyes of the 7-stages lifecycle pattern to the past of your relationships, your company, your family, your society, your country or the whole of humanity, you’ll eventually find the very same 7-stages lifecycle evolution pattern.
The angel and the demon in one, we are a manifestation of the energetical potential which came into the world and wants to be unravelled in form. The purpose which wants to happen and bring its unique message. The purpose which is already happening. And all we can do is to follow the natural unfolding of it. Whatever that means or takes. That’s the main implication of this insight.